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Winning The Battle In Your Soul Against Panic, Fear And Covid

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Purpose: Sharing neuroscience hacks to help you win the battle in your soul during this time of lockdowns, social distancing and a strange lack of toilet paper. Payoff: You'll regain control to and be able to encourage others so we can all emerge better, stronger and ready to reinvigorate our lives and the world. Encourage We're 3 months into this virus spreading its fear and anxiety across the globe. Different people in different places are in various stages of grief. We all started in full denial and several went into isolation immediately. Information was scare as no-one accepted responsibility and no-one wanted to be accountable. Experts were dumbfounded - only this time they actually admitted that they were dumbfounded. Some closed borders, others said it was premature. Some stopped flights, others continue to this day. Some said it is airborne and we all need masks, others said it was droplets and we needed to wash our hands. That period seemed to last forever, some would suggest that there's a couple of world leaders still there, which rather helped many tip over into the anger phase. The promises of no shortages triggered the exact opposite effect - after all, no sensible person trusts a politician at the best of times, and suddenly they were talking about the worst of times, but everything else was carrying on as usual? Toilet paper was the first surprising victim. Now, everything is in diminished supply. Some leaders started bargaining with the virus only to discover that it didn't come to negotiate but to infiltrate. It came to spread and reproduce and take out the weaker members - which unsurprisingly led many back into anger. Self-isolation measures began to take root and social distancing was no longer about focusing only on your phones and choosing to ignore others, now we were encouraged to avoid others. Churches shut their doors, Mosques and temples too. The misery continued as depression kicked in. The massive deaths in Italy made us all question what was really happening. Holidays cancelled - many with little prospect of a refund and , naturally, the insurance companies would claim exceptional circumstances. Slowly acceptance of quarantine, isolation, stay at home, the lost holidays, the lost income, the lost job, and yes, the lost toilet paper. We're all grieving. Grieving for a life that was, just a few short weeks ago, looking so promising. A new decade was dawning and there was hope in the very air. Well now the air is clean and clear. At least until China's factories ramp up to full production and poison our scarred lungs. Hope has faded for many, a few hold on tightly to the promises of God, who is, by the way, still on His throne. If we haven't personally lost someone dear to us, why are we grieving? We're grieving the loss of agency and control. Develop The little girl coughed as we descended in the lift. A deep, dry and loud cough. She didn't cover her mouth. I flinched. It was instinctual, my heart rate shot up and my body and brain flooded with adrenaline. I stopped breathing. I left the lift as the doors opened and realised I had stopped breathing. The fresh sun-soaked air was my welcome refuge. Humans everywhere are deeply concerned for their safety. We cannot not be. It's the Critter part of our brain. The part that houses and runs our emotions. A place where chemistry rules the roost and floods our brains and blood stream with chemical messengers to be afraid, to be very very afraid. Don't know what it is? Be afraid. Don't know what to do? Be afraid. Don't know what's happening? Be afraid. And this isn't a conscious "knowing". We have no experience or memory that helps guide us on the better course of action. We can quickly be so overwhelmed with emotions of fear and anxiety that we forget all else and forget to engage our thinking mind. It is going to help you to better understand how our body and soul - our mind, will and emotions operate and thus we feel as though we have no agency or contr

What's better today, and welcome to the leadership advantage podcast. I think, Dr John Kenworthy, the leadership advantage isn't some magic pill or silver volumet instant success as a leader. I'm sharing the art and neuroscience of having expert leadership, the unstuck your potential in life and work. He then, welcome to this edition of the leadership advantage and this month we're talking about winning this battle in your soul against fear, panic and Covid so I'm going to be sharing some euroscience has to help you win the battle in your soul during this time of lockdowns, social distancing and a strange lack of toilet paper, and you'll be able to regain control and be able to encourage others. So if you're only word better, stronger and ready to reinvigorate our lives and the world. So, the three months into the violence spreading its fear and anxiety across the globe, different people in different places are in various stages of grief. We all started in full denial and several went into isolation immediately. Information was scarce, as no one accepted responsibility and no one wanted to be accounting experts. Were down from me, only this time they actually admitted, though they were Dune founded. Some close boarders, others said it was premature. Some stop...

...flights, others continued to this day. Some say these airborne and we all need masks. Others said he was droplets and we needed to wash our hands. Appeariod seemed to last for other some would suggest that there's a couple of world leaders still there, which rather helped many tip over into the anger. Fees, the promises of no shortages triggered the exact opposite effect. After all, no sensible person trusts a politician. Had the best of time, and suddenly they were talking about the worst of times, but everything else was carrying on as usual. Toilet paper was the first surprising victim. Now everything is in diminished supply. Some leaders started barging with the virus, only to discover that it didn't come to negotiate, but to windfil trait. He came to spread and reproduce and take out the weaker members, which unsurprisingly led many back into anger self. Isolation measures began to take root, and social distancing was no longer about focusing only on your phone and choosing to ignore other people. Now we were encouraged to avoid others. Churches shut their doors, Moss and temples to the misery continued as depression kicked in. A massive number of deaths in Italy made us all question what it was really happening. Holidays got canceled, many with little prospect of a refund, and naturally the insurance companies would claim exceptional circumstances. Slowly, acceptance of quarantine, isolation, stay at home,...

...the lost holidays, the lost income, the lost job and, yes, the lost toilet paper. We are all or grieving, grieving from life that was just a few short weeks ago looking so prompting. A new decade was dawning and there was hope in the very air. Well, now, at least the air is clean and clear, at least it will be until China's factories ramp up to full production and poison our scarred lungs. Hope has faded. For many, a few hold on tightly to the promises of God, who is, by the way, still on his throne. If we haven't personally lost someone dear to us, why are we grieving? Well, we're grieving the loss of agency and control. The little girl coughed as we descended in the lift, a deep, dry and loud cough. She didn't cover her mouth. I flinched. It was instinctual. My heart rate shot up and my body and brain flooded with adrenaline. I stopped breathing. I left the lift as the doors opened and realized I stopped breathing. The fresh Sun Soaked Air was my welcome refuge. Humans everywhere Um deeply concerned for their safety. We cannot not be. It's the quitter part of our brain, the part that houses and runs our emotions, a place where chemistry rules the roost and floods our brains and blood stream with chemical messengers. To be afraid,...

...to be very, very afraid. Don't know what it is. Be Afraid. Turn't what to do. Be Afraid. Don't know what was happening. Be Afraid. This isn't a conscious knowing. We have no experience or memory that helps guide us on the better course of action. We can quickly be so overwhelmed with emotions of fear and anxiety that we forget all else and forget to engage our thinking mind. This point is going to help you to better understand how the body and Sol how mind will an emotions operate and thus we feel as though we have no agency or control. Then you can do something to change. To simplify, I like to consider the soul as three parts, the mind, the will and the emotions, the soul itself being part of our triune being of the spirit, soul and body. The three parts of the soul, the mind, that will and the emotions, are pretty much in a battle during this crisis. They are. The mind is your thinking, conscious, executive brain. The will is in the frontal lobe and is what drives you to do what you do, your desires and values. The emotions, well, they're the things that make you feel and make you act, and it's mostly in your hippothoumnus and a Migdala, the critter brain. When something is noticed by any of the five senses of your body,...

...the critter brain responds fastest. How I safe, and it is a yes or no answer. Something new, unknown, novel or in any doubt not safe. ADRENALINE and court is old triggered and the body responds with freeze, fight or flight. Emotional memories are quickly accessed. Everything as before. Oh yes, that's just the flu habit. Seeing it Dune it got the TSHIRT. No, okay, let's hide, get out of here, let's kill it. Only at this point, once the chemicals are already in production and coursing through your body, as your mind, the executive brain, kick into high gear. It's millie seconds later, but a lot can happen in your brain in that time. You think, unlike our animal friends. You think. Your mind checks in with your will, what drives you personally, the values you hold dear, what desires you have. Your mind also checks its memory banks, searching for experience, knowledge, solutions. You know what you should do. That's your mind, but what you want to do, which is your will, and meantime your body is already responding to the chemical response from your emotions. You now have a choice. What I should do, what I want to do, or what I am feeling, and it...

...is the winner of this battle that determines your chosen response. Remember, you're going through the same choice. What I should do, what is the right thing to do, what do I want to do, which may or may not be the same thing, and what I am feeling? HMM, that's where the battle is going on. The problem with this current covid nineteen is less the virus itself. It's the fear it, with the ample assistance of politicians, leaders, mainstream media and especially social media induces, and the seeming reduction of your agency or control. To choose for yourself. Now we know what is happening and the key questions in this battle in your soul. Winning the battle is about resuming agency or control. As best you can see, no one likes to be told that they cannot leave their house. The moment you tell someone that they cannot do something, they want to do it and warnings become invitations. Don't smoke. Who would they to be telling me not to smoke? I'll smoke if I were honest, but it's my life. If I want to take the risk, well, that to me. If I want to go to a club and dance till down with all my friends and I get infected, so be I'll survive. After all, it doesn't kill many. The flesh screams for agency and control. It wants to do the will of your soul, your mind. Your mind is much more rational,...

...more logical and more obedient. If so many experts say this is for the best, then that's what I will do. I don't like it. But I choose to follow advice, and if everybody followed the advice, it would all be better for everyone and sooner. Back and forth, back and forth it goes. Your will is screaming, your mind says, let's be sensible and calm down. Your emotions will relief from the fear, stress and worry. Your brain is in beat a wave mode, fast and busy in keeping you focus, but it's not getting the downtime it needs to relax, let alone heal repair. So how do you win the battle? You need to choose to let your mind assume control by letting go of control. Yes, it is an Oximenon and you'll soon agree that it's not as easy as it sounds, but it is possible with a little neurer science hack. So this spread of covid ground across the world has demonstrated how utterly unready we all were and remain for a disastrous pandemic. There are plenty of people who will call us of this pandemic is nearly as bad as seasonal flu or not as deadly as a bowler, and nothing compared to the bubonic plague. But there is a major difference this time around. This time we have social media and everyone is a journalist and read or watch any use and it will be stoking your fear and anxiety. So my number one recommendation for every is to stop reading or watching the news. You are feeding yourself with the knowledge of good...

...and evil, with an emphasis on the latter. Do yourself a huge favor and stop. Probably through facebook, even Linkedin, and definitely, definitely avoid twitter. Don't turn on the TV and catch the headlines. Don't worry. If you need to know something that's going on, someone will tell you, and if they don't, then you don't get to worry about it. Of course, I realize that this is Ni impossible these days, but the less you see and hear negative information, the lower the levels of the stress hormones caught is older and a drolling course through your body. Instead, make a really tight fist with your hand. Hold it, hold it and keep squeezing it, tight and tighter and tighter tighter still, as if you were trying to control and hold everything in the entire world right now to fix it. And then let your fingers loose and relax and let the blood flow and release all that tension, let go of Control, cast your cares better have a quick look around you, check make sure that the world hasn't fallen apart without you being a charge, and then do it again. Take back control with a really tight fish build the tension, take on those burdens and then let them all go again. Flex your fingers and breathe huge, big for sigh...

...and, just like washing your hands these days, do this as often as your mind touches on, trying to send you into another round of panic, stress and worry, asking what if, if only? What if? If only? Use Your fist tension to take control of your mind, win the battle of your soul and then let go to gain control. Yes, you are tricking your will and emotions with your body to let your mind take control, and then you are back at a place of choice and agency and you can let it go. Let me wrap today with beginning of the my favorite Psalm, this time Psalm Ninety one. He who dwells, and I won't dwells, means to sit in the secret place of the most high, will remain secure and rest in the shadow is your mighty be greatly blessed. Stay safe. I hope that you really enjoyed this episode and will share some highlights with the people you care about most. My team and I are working on...

...a series of exciting new projects in this art and neuroscience of hacking expert leadership to unstuff your true potential in life and work. To learn more, visit leadership Advantagecom or just search for Dr John Kenworthy and connect with.

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