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LA 020: How to Align Yourself to Getting Things Done and Enjoy Success

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Have you set yourself a SMART goal and still not achieved it? Goal setting, we know is a powerful tool in helping us focus on a specific objective and put our energy and resources towards achieving it. But did you know that human beings align themselves to achieving their goal in one of four ways? And that the way you align your energy and resources to achieving your goal can be the determinant as to whether you achieve success or not? What is it about those people who set big, stretching goals for themselves and get there without the fight that the rest of us seem to face? Even something as simple as making sure everything is properly organised and filed and those minutiae are dealt with. All, effortlessly… or at least that's what it looks like. I recall my Godfather shared a story about swans gliding along the river, elegant and poised. No trace of the furious effort beneath the water as they paddled furiously against the current in search of a morsel of bread I had thrown. Is this the secret of those who seem to glide through life to and endless stream of successes? I tried to master this idea of appearing poised whilst furiously beavering away and, of course, failed miserably. It was exhausting. I was expending huge effort in my work and huge effort in trying to appear that I wasn't working.  Perhaps, I should just let the current take me wherever it would. But then, I would find myself drifting towards the weir of life and the turmoil of burbling rapids and somewhere downstream in the opposite direction. And, it's not just our long term goals where this matters. We live in a world of busy-ness. There's a constant demand for our attention from work, from colleagues, bosses, clients, family, friends, and beeps from devices, and emails and more all clamouring for immediate attention. In part, this modern life itself distracts us from our plans, so it becomes increasingly important that we keep on top of everything and not drown in a sea of todo lists under a cacophony of beeps. So let us explore the four different ways we can choose to align our effort, energy and resources towards achieving our chosen goals. I call them, Push mode, Pull mode, Drift mode and the fourth is really a combination, the PushMePullYou mode. Push Mode Multi-tasking, endless todo lists and long hours in the office are all indicators that you are in Push Mode[/caption] If you have to drive others towards an objective, even drive yourself towards it, I call this being in push mode. Push mode is typified by focusing your attention on problems that need to be resolved, or things that need fixing. Many people use a ‘todo’ list or a GTD (getting things done) system. Are you one of them? Take a look at yours now and see if it is a list of problems. The fun, creative or enjoyable things rarely make it onto a ‘todo’ list – rather there is a tendency to say that once the list is done and I have time, then I’ll do the fun stuff. What’s more, you will already know that the things we pay attention to are the things that grow and the things we don’t pay attention to tend to fade away. So if we focus on problems (call them challenges or issues if you must but they are still the same thing), we will find that the problems grow. So here’s a radical thought, if we focus our attention on interesting, exciting, fun things, they will grow. And our problems, won’t they fade away? “But you don’t understand. I have to get this report done, I have a ton of emails to clear, I have to attend this meeting, I have calls to make to angry customers, and if I don’t I’ll get fired. I simply don’t have time to talk to people, take it easy, smell the flowers…” And when your stress levels have made you so sick that you can’t work, let alone afford the hospital bills you’ll feel what exactly? Accomplished? Valued? Important? Nothing more satisfying than lying in bed recovering from a heart attack knowing how much your contribution is missed. I’m not saying that these things (some of th

Hi. What's better, today you're listening to the leadership advantage podcast with me, Doctor John Camworthy, brought to you by yourselves Incom it's why some leaders thrive and others struggle. Hey, there, this is John Camworthy. Welcome to this week's I've vantage podcast about how to align yourself to getting things done and enjoy success. I've always been fascinated by some people seem to achieve incredible goals seemingly effortlessly, while others give up along the way, and others still may as well not set any goals because they've achieve very little. I'm sure you've set yourself a smart goal, but have you achieved it? Goal Setting, we know, is a powerful tool in helping you focus on a specific objective and getting your energy and resources towards achieving it. But did you know...

...that human beings align themselves to achieving their gold in one of four ways, and the way that you align your energy and resources in achieving your goal can be the determinant as to whether you achieve success or not. What is it about those people who set big, stretching goals for themselves and get there without the fight that the rest of US seemed to face, even something as simple as making or where everything is properly organized and file and and those my new Shire dealt with all effortlessly, or at least that's what it looks like. I recall down for a walk with my godfather when I was a child, with the dog and we were walking down the river and he shared a story about swans gliding down the river, elegant employees, no trace of the furious effort beneath the water as they paddled against the current in search of the Morsel of bread I just throw. Is this the secret of those who seem to glide through life to endless streams of successes? I try to master this idea...

...of appearing poised whilst furiously beavering way, and of course failed miserably. It was exhausting. Perhaps I should have just let the current take me wherever it would, but then I was finding myself drifting toward the wear of life and the turmoil of burbling rapids and some way downstream in the opposite direction. And it's not just our long term goals where this matters. We live in a world of busyness. There's a constant demand for our attention from work, from colleagues, bosses, clients, family friends and beeps from devices and emails are more all clamoring for immediate attention. In part just these, modern life itself distracts us from our plans. So it becomes increasingly important that we keep on top of everything and not drown in a sea of to do lists under a cacophony of beeps. So let's explore the four different ways we can choose to...

...align ourselves, our energy and resources towards achieving our chosen goals. I call on the push mode, pull mode, drift mode and the fourth, well, is really a combination. It's the push me, pull you mode. In push mode, you have a drive for yourself and for others towards a specific objective, is typified by focusing your attention on problems that need to be resolved or things that need fixing. Many people, like me, I use A to do list, or in a you might use a g tder getting things done system. Take a look at yours and see if it's just a list of problems. The downside of most to do lists and most systems is that all the fun and creative or enjoyable things really make it on to the to do list or your schedule. Rather, there's a tendency to say that...

...once the list is down and I have time, then I'll do the fun stuff. But that's like saying, well, when I finished work, I'll do the fun stuff. I when I retire, I'll do something fun with my life. But we want to live life, don't we? And what's more, you already know the things you pay attention to other things that can grow, and the things that you don't pay attention to will fade away. So you focus are of all of your effort and all of your work life on problems, those problems will grow and all the fun things that you want to do, like spend time with your family, will they'll just fade away. Perhaps we should focus a lot more on what really matters. Oh, but you don't understand, John. I have to get this report done. got a ton of emails to cliff. I have to I have to attend this meeting caused back to customers, and if I don't I'll get fired. I simply don't have time to talk to people. Take it easy, smell...

...the flowers and when your stress levels I've made you so sick that you can't work, let alone afford the hospital bills. You'll feel in exactly young, accomplished, valued important. Believe me, there is nothing more satisfying than lying in bed recovering from a heart attack, knowing how much your contribution is missed. I'm not saying that these things, some of them any way, don't need to be done, but the by not focusing all of your time and effort on them, they will and do fade away. oftentimes they just get done without stress, without worry. But what about pull mode? pull mode, on the other hand, is about leadership and paying attention to growth and improvement. and rather than focusing on attention on problems to be solved or fixed...

...or overcome, in pull mode we take the time to clearly envisage our future and allow the goal to pull us towards it. The result of push mode and pull mode may appear to be the same, that is, the achievement of the goal, but in pull mode it takes less effort and it allows your unconscious activity to take precedence over conscious, linear, exhausting processing. The idea of pull mode is that you create a vision of the future that is so compelling for you and perhaps for others that you cannot help but be drawn towards it. The things that you need to do on the way become minor irritant that simply get done, and anything that really is not important is not done and just fade into insignificant. So what you want to be doing is focusing on your strength theory is, the things that you are talented act,...

...because you get those done effortlessly, and the things that are your weaknesses, some of them. Yes, perhaps you have to develop. I have to do some filing, I have to do some accounts, and these are two things that I don't actually enjoy doing. I love teaching accounts, but I don't actually enjoy doing accounts. I can do the spreadsheets and everything else, but I am much better off if I spend my time doing things that I'm very good at doing, that I can do with the least amount of effort. And the same is true for you. Focus on your strengths, not on things that you don't enjoy or don't do very well. Use pull mode to do so. It will draw you towards and you will get those things done. And if there are things that have to be done, you going to have to delegate and then he said, well, I haven't got anybody to delegate to. Find that, somebody to delegate to. Push mode,...

...your is like putting the engine on. You've got to feed that thing with fuel all the time. It's constantly go, go, go, towards a specific objective. Spot the obstacles, v around them, jump over them, crash through them, whatever you need to do to achieve your goal. Very often people will run out of fuel, almost quite literally, and die along the way. In pull mode, we want that goal at the end so much, but we're going to use our strengths, we're going to use our knowledge, an experience and understanding of the world to let it pull us towards it. But the vast majority of people I have seen and spoken to they're not in push moode really, they're not in pull mode. They're in something we call drift mode. The stresses of push mode, always making things happen...

...and for ever coming up against obstacles and time wasters causes many, many people to fall into drift mode rather than go into pull mode. Drift mode is quite different. It's somewhat new aging in influence, where one just let thing happen. When it's in pull mode, called calmer, faked life forces, whatever it generally involves, emptying your mind of worries and anxieties and just letting life happen to you. Whichever way the wind blows, you drift along with it. You might end up on an agreeable shore where you allow yourself to drift over the seas of life, or you might end up somewhere deeply unpleasant. Almost probably, you're just continue drifting along. pull mode is different, because there is a clear and articulated vision of your compelling goal that is pulling you towards it. The aimlessness of drift mode may be refreshing for a while,...

...but the anxieties of life will soon catch up and cause as much stress as push moode already dead for the vast majority of people. And then there's the fourth mode. Push me, pull you. This mythical creature, and doctor dolittle provides this lovely metaphor for how many leaders feel about leadership. They are in push mode for themselves, driving the agenda and encountering resistance of it followers who have to be pulled, some dragging, kicking screaming in the chosen direction. No wonder many leaders are exalted. They drive themselves to an early grave or opt out entirely and fall into drift mode. So how do you know which mode you're in? Well, do you take pride in hard work? Do Rag to people about working more than fifty hours a week? Can the company just not cope without you? Are you proud of that? Do...

...you use to do lists that you think that in order for things to happen, that you have to make some happen? If you answer yes to most of all of that, you're in push mode. Do you have a compelling vision of Your Future Self? Find your work effortless, know your strengths of talent and everything that needs to be done will be done? That sounds like pull mode. Do you have a sort of an idea about what you want in the future and take it easy whenever possible and avoid and pleasant trees unpleasant tasks? If they happen, that happen. If they don't, they don't, and you probably complain. So somebody else should be doing this for you. You're in drift mode, as surely it's better for your health to be in drift mode than push mode at sure I think it is. If you have a lot of savings or a rich money and daddy to fall back on.

But if you have no goal in life, that's what you're going to end up doing, achieving no goal. Or are you in push me pulled you? You're pushing yourself and pulling and dragging everybody else along to your vision of the future that you have to push yourself towards and exhausting yourself. You can tell from this to the best one for you to be in is really pull mode, the compelling vision of Your Future, understanding and knowing your talents and your strength, committing and prioritizing the way you do things, the way you align your effort, energy and all of your resources is using your strengths. You don't completely ignore your weaknesses. You develop those that you have to, but only if you have to. It's much better if you can delegate, get somebody in, outsource it to somebody, if you need to to...

...get other things done, so that you can focus on what you're good at and do it as effortlessly as possible and amazingly, you'll enjoy doing it as well. So which mody win? Push mode, pull mode, drift mode or push me pully mode? That's it for me for this week. Thanks for downloading this podcast. Please do send this on to a friend, tell them where to download and get them to sign up for advantage for Ip so you can regularly get this and hit hit reply. Tell me what you think of it, which mode you're in and if there's anything I can do to help you, just get in touch with you've been listening to the leadership advantage...

...podcast with me, Dr John Kenworthy. If you'd like to find out more, visitors sells itcom. It's why some leaders thrive and others struggle.

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