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LA 016: How to Let Go and Gain Control

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What helps distinguish leaders and managers is about control and, quite literally, how "hands-on" you are. If you have ever learned to play the game of golf, the chances are that you grip the club tightly. After all this is basically holding onto a stick that you will swing through the air and hit a ball. Allowing the club to "follow-through' - if you don't hold on tight, the club might just go as far as the ball. I appreciate that you may have never played golf, but you can liken this also to the tight grip of the reins of a horse to controlling your dog on a very short leash to holding on tight to your child's hand   New golfers have to learn how to 'let go' - to relax their grip. If a tight grip is a ten on a scale, we want a 4 out of 10. The same is true of leadership and the way we hold on to our people. Hold on too tight (micromanage) and people have little freedom to use their own skills and strength. Hold on too tight to the club, and it is the golfer doing all the work. So the question is: "who should be doing the work?" The manager or leader or the member of staff? The golf club is weighted for a reason. If you allow the club to do the work, the swing and striking of the ball, becomes almost effortless. Relax your grip on your team and allow them to excel at what they do, and the work becomes almost effortless. Once you know, as a golfer, that the club is designed to do the job of striking the ball, and your job is simply to swing and allow physics do to its job, you can relax. Maintain just enough control to ensure alignment, direction and distance and the ball will fly according to the club used, and the size of the swing. If you want a long distance, you use a long club and a full swing. A short distance off the fairway onto the green requires a shorter distance club and a smaller swing. The power to achieve the distance lies in the tool being employed and the chosen swing - the rest is pure physics. So what can we learn as a leader? To hit your target, at some point you have to let go Isn't it the same? Make sure that you are using the right tool - the person needs the right skill set (and/or mindset) to do the required job. The leader's job is to have a little control to ensure that the skills are employed in the right direction for the right distance - that's about judging how far it is to the goal and translating that into the swing itself - in the case of people, the swing is influence and motivation... let the staff do the rest. And just like that golf ball landing exactly where you both planned and wanted it to be for the next shot. You celebrate. Unlike golf, though, praise your club and thank them for their effort. After all, they did all the work! When we use this metaphor on our golf leadership workshops, the feedback is instant. Hold tight onto the club and the golfer has to use a great deal of effort and the ball often ends up being pulled, pushed, sliced or hooked - going two-thirds of the required distance. Relax the grip maintaining directional control and the ball flies straight to the full distance of the club and swing used. (For non-golfers... try this with a horse, hold tight, the horse will slow down even when you whip it! Keep your dog on a short leash stays by your side while it is pulling your arm out of its socket! Your child dangles from your hand as you cross the road. And, fo course, your team members await your next specific instruction on what they should do next.) When the going gets tough, leaders in control let go! Yet, new golfers, in particular, find their grip tightening in more difficult situations. The very moment when they need to be most at ease, most truly controlling, fear envelops them, pressure builds, the grip tightens, and the ball goes astray. If you have to keep a tight grip on something, keep everyone tightly focused on the goal and direction The same is true of business leaders under pressure. Listen to the media hype about the doom and gloom of the current econom

Hi, you're listening to the advantage podcast with me, John Cameron. Hey there, this is Dr John Camworthy. What's better today? Welcome to this week's podcast, and this week I'm talking all about letting go to gain control. Sounds like an oxymore on, but it's very true. What helps distinguish leaders and managers is about control, quite literally, how hands on you are. So, if you've ever learned to play the game of golf, the chances are that when you started, you gripped the club very tightly. After all, this is basically just holding on to a stick that you will swing through the air and hit a ball, allowing the club to follow through. Well, if you don't hold on tight the club might just go as far as the ball. So, okay, I appreciate you may never have played...

...golf, but you can also like in this holding on to the reins of a horse very tightly, or trying to control your dog on a very short leash, perhaps holding onto tightly onto your child's hand as you cross the road. A new golfers have to learn how to let go, as did new parents, to relax their grip, if a tight grip is of ten on scale. Well, we want about four out of a ten. The same is true of leadership and the way we hold onto our people. Hold on too tight, micro managing and people have little freedom to use their own skills and strengths. If you hold on too tight to a golf club, it is the Golfer doing all the work. So the question is, who should...

...be doing the world the manager or leader or the member of staff? See Em, golf club is waited for a reason. If you allow the club to do the work, the swing and striking of the ball become almost effortless. Relax your grip on your team and allow them to excel at what they do, and the work for you becomes almost effortless. Once you know as a golfer. But the club is designed to do the job of striking the ball and your job is simply to swim and allow physics to do it's job. You can relax, maintain just enough control to ensure alignment, direction and distance, and the ball will fly according to the club used and the size...

...of the swing. If you want a long distance, you use a long club, a lower number and a full swing. A short distance off the fairway onto the green requires a shorter distance club, as it happens with a higher number and a smaller swing. The power to achieve the distance lies in the tool being employed and the chosen swing. The rest is pure physics. We can we learn as a leader well, to hit your target, at some point you have to let go, because isn't it insane? Make sure that you are using the right tool. The person needs the right skill set and or mindset to do the required job. Your job as the leader is to have a little control to ensure that those skills are employed in the right...

...direction, for the right distance, for the right length of time, and that's about judging how far it is to the goal and translating that into the swing itself. In the case of people, the swing is influence and motivation. How do you influence your staff member to use their skills in a particular direction? Once you're aligned towards your longer term objectives and goals, you'd let your staff do the rest of the world and just like that, golf will lend exactly where you both planned and wanted it to be. For the next chart, you celebrate unlike golf, so praise your club and thank them for their effort. After all, they did all the work. Of course, I'm referring to your staff member. When we use this metaphor on our golf...

...leadership workshops, the feedback is instant. Hold tight onto the club and the golf has to use a great deal of effort and the ball often ends up being pulled, pushed, sliced or hooked, going if anything between two inches or maybe two thirds of the required distance. But relax that group, maintaining directional control for out of ten and the ball flies straight to the full distance of the club and the swing that you have just used. See for nongolfers, try this with a horse. Hold on real tight and the horse will slow down even when you whip it. Keep your dog on a really tight, short leash and make sure they stay by your side while they want to run and jump and play in a park, pulling your arm out of its socket or with your child. Your child will dangle from your hand as you cross the road. And, of course, your team members are way to...

...your next specific, micromanaged instruction on exactly what they should do next. See when the going gets tough, leaders in control. Let go new golfers in particular. They find their grip tightening in more difficult situations the very moment when they need to be most at ease, most truly controlling. Fear envelops some pressure builds the grip titans and the ball goes astray. See if you have to keep a tight grip on something. Keep everyone tightly focused on the goal and direction, see the track. Same is true of business leaders under pressure. Listen to the media hype about the doom and gloom of the current economic situation and fear could easily creep into the mind. Many leaders respond by tightening...

...their grip on their people and their business, believing that the more tightly they hold, the more control they have and the more likely they are to survive and pull through, albeit they expend huge amounts of effort. Feel incredibly stressed and you're more likely to explode a blood vessel. Tough Times in business are better served where leaders keeping a clear head, a loose gript, maintain direction and let your people do what they do best. Let's face the truth, are even a Bayon off the size of Aig couldn't control the market. What makes you think that you can? My advice, ignore the noise, media doom and gloom and bad news. The economies stuffed is going backwards. Shares are being sold off, so it's going to happen. Look for the opportunities and focus on your goal and eats direction. Choose the right club the right...

...people. Loosen your grip, Stop Micromanagy, lead your people, motivate them through influencing them. That gives them value to use their strengths to do what they do best. Let the Club do the work. Overall, loosen your grip and you'll have more control. I hope you've enjoyed this week's short podcast. Please do share this with your friends. Point them to the page. They can sign up free of charge and join the advantage for Ip and going to be doing more of these shorter podcast because some of the feedback I've had is that you don't want the long ones. So eight to nine minutes is what I'm aiming for each time. So remember share this with your friends if...

...you think that will help them, particularly your micro managing boss, see if they need it. Okay, have a blessed week. Ad Bye. Bye. You've been listening to the advantage podcast with me. John came to find out more. Visit US at selsincom.

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